How loud and rude is your inner voice?


Is it so loud that it keeps you awake at night? Is it hurtful?

I know my internal voice says things to me that I wouldn’t dream of saying to anyone else!

Yours may not be quite as negative, but it probably is … at times.

The thing to remember is that your brain’s function is to keep you safe and alive, so it isn’t surprising that your inner voice tries to stop you from doing anything that could possibly put you at risk.

But perhaps for you (and certainly for my clients) the risks taken aren’t really life threatening … it’s just that your brain doesn’t necessarily know that!

For example;

  • you are waiting at the side of a stage about to walk on to present. You start to feel butterflies in your stomach, you get short of breath, your heart beats faster and your hands become clammy. Your sympathetic nervous system is kicking into gear to get your body ready to fight or flee. Your inner voice starts telling you to get out of there.

Now, imagine;

  • you are in a dark room, the lights have gone out and you hear a gunshot from outside … same feelings, same inner voice telling you to get out of there.

In both instances the same reaction, both to try to save you. But at the side of the stage you don’t need to fight or flee, your life isn’t really in danger but your inner voice doesn’t know!

So, what can you do when you aren’t in danger but you are beginning to panic?

In moments like this, breathe in deeply for the count of seven and then out for the count of eleven. Close your eyes if you can and just concentrate on breathing in as you count to seven and out as you count to eleven. Do this for 3 or 4 times and you will start to feel calmer.

When your sympathetic nervous system kicks in you are getting ready to fight or flee so your heartbeat accelerates to pump blood and your body readies itself to run or move quickly. Your parasympathetic nervous system works to calm you down and allow you to rest. Both of these are subconscious responses and by breathing to seven-eleven you trigger the ‘calming down’ response.

At its simplest …

… If you were in danger you wouldn’t breathe deeply; consequently, if you are breathing deeply you can’t be in danger and your body will react accordingly.

Try it and see how it works for you.